Your Subtype Instincts in Relationship
August 20, 2011
When: Tuesday evenings, September 6, 13, 30, 27
Time: 7:00-9:00
Fee: $119
Facilitators:
Leslie Hershberger and Sue Jone, Enneagram Teachers in the Narrative Tradtion
neurosis (n-rss): A psychological state characterized by excessive anxiety or insecurity without evidence of neurological or other organic disease, sometimes accompanied by defensive or immature behaviors.
When I first read about the Enneagram subtypes, I thought they were mildly interesting. Yet, when I dove more deeply and listened to people speak about how their drive for self-preservation, social connection and sexual/one to one intimacy affected their relationships, I had the proverbial aha moment.
- I had thought my husband was a bit neurotic about people touching his computer. (true)
- I had thought I was a bit neurotic when I couldn’t find a social group to meet my changing spirituality. (true)
- I had thought my friend was a bit neurotic about not having a significant other in her life (true)
The truth is that when core needs rooted in primal drives were compromised, our bodies actually had an instinctive reaction as if its survival were threatened!
These drives include a need for material security (self preservation), a sense of belonging and membership (social), and the need for intimacy (one-to-one/sexual) which is rooted in the vitality of our life force.
No wonder we had an experience of neurosis. My husband felt more compromised in the self-preservation sector while my neurosis tended to show up in the social realm when I felt the need for a group to experience a sense of belonging. (On our honeymoon he couldn’t understand why I wanted to bond with the couple at the next table while I thought he was being anti-social. When I told my one to one friend about it, she laughed and said, “You wanted to make new friends on your honeymoon??”).
All three instincts help us feel we have a place in the world and connect us to the web of life itself.
I began to have a deep respect for different subtypes and could understand my husband who recently said, “I feel like our subtype impacts our relationship more than our Enneagram style.”
Join us in this ongoing series, The Enneagram Deeper Dive Series as we explore the instinctual subtypes and identify how they show up in your life (images below might help you begin to identify your primary drives)
This can be used to help prepare you for the
Helen Palmer and Terry Saracino workshop coming to Cincinnati on September 17-18
Prerequisite:
- Introduction to the Enneagram and a capacity for self-observation. Also, be prepared to share your experience with other people; the best way to learn is to access your own experience, practice using your insights and to listen to the experience another person.
- You must know your Enneagram style. If you need a typing interview prior to the class, please contact Leslie or Sue
The Middle Way: Integral Transformative Practice
August 18, 2011
“Contemplation, rightly understood, does not plunge us into a pit of narcissism but returns us to the needs of the world with clarity and commitment. A receptive listener provides witness to our discovery of inner truth.”
Parker Palmer
The spiritual path is simply learning to receptively participate in the Ground of Love.
Contemplation is a long, loving look at the real and a contemplative life is one lived in awareness.
Awareness combined with spiritual practice reduces defensiveness, deepens understanding, challenges our assumptions and births compassion.
This group is a 10 month advanced group for people who have completed a minimum of two Integral classes or Integral Women groups (or similar groups), who know their Enneagram type and who are willing to take the next step of going deeper.
How do you know if you are ready? Ask yourself if the following statements are congruent with your personal intention:
~A capacity to self-disclose and share in a safe, confidential environment
~A willingness to work with the defensive nature of personality, notice habitual patterns and challenge your assumptions about yourself and other people
~A commitment to daily spiritual practice
~A readiness to open your heart to yourself and others
We begin with an outdoor retreat from 9-4 on September 14
Regular sessions then begin September 28
Date: 9/28, 10/12, 10/26, 11/9, 11/30, /12/14
Time: 9:30-12 noon
Place:Oakley, Ohio
Fee: $175 for the daily sessions, $75 for the retreat
Facilitator: Leslie Hershberger, MA, Certified Teacher of Narrative Enneagram, Certified Train-the-Trainer of Enneagram in Business, Teacher mentor for Enneagram Association in the Narrative Tradition
“Leslie is both warm hearted, and thoughtful in her teaching and coaching. I have witnessed her depth of knowledge, teaching skill, and awareness. I consider her a brilliant teacher and life coach. Her insight into the fundamentals of their personal and spiritual development makes her teaching especially poignant. I recommend her highly. You will benefit from your experience with her.”
David Daniels, M.D. co-founder of the Enneagram Professional Training Program (EPTP) and Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Stanford Medical School
“Leslie is loving, compassionate and authentic. My life has been deeply enriched by her, both personally and professionally. Her knowledge of spiritual development and her genuine acceptance of others allow people to flourish in her presence. She’s the real deal.”
Jane Shipley, Workshop participant
What is Our Focus?
Part 1: September-December: The Presence Process by Michael Brown
In his book, Brown takes us through 10 weeks. Each week includes:
- Reading the chapter
- Breathing practices twice a day
- A weekly “Conscious Response” as an awareness practice
- Body awareness practices (felt sense)
- Group sharing
- Enneagram insights are integrated throughout the sessions.
Part 2: The Wisdom Way of Knowing by Cynthia Bourgeault; January-June 2012
(Details to be announced. Will include contemplative/meditation practice, sacred chanting, conscious work, lectio divina, body awareness practice)
How Do I Sign Up?
Contact Leslie Hershberger at leslie@lesliehershberger.com to set up a time for a phone conversation to determine whether this group meets your needs.
If you are a returning member, register below.
Enneagram Coaching
August 5, 2011
Each session 60 minutes
- Identify habitual type responses and specific ways to shift automatic reactions
- Learn centering and breathing practices
- Reinforce awareness, action and self-development practices
- Outline specific goals, actions and awareness practices for next session
- Illuminate type for self and others
- Engender compassion for self and others
- Nurture and support